a calm in the storm : Issue No. 3 "details, details"

What song do we walk down the aisle to? What colors should we choose? Should I have a long train or a short one, or no train at all? Vail or no vail? Tuxedos, suits, vests, no vests, flip flops, formal shoes? Who gets a corsage? Do we get an open bar or not? Will people be offended if we have a small wedding? Why won't my parents tell me what the budget is? How, what, when...it can get overwhelming!

With so many decisions to be made it can be difficult to remember that the details are only an extension of what really matters at the end of the day. Regardless of how perfect or imperfect your wedding day goes, you're still going to be married at the end of your wedding day. You still get to go home as Mr. and Mrs. no matter what. So when it comes to planning the details and the logistics of your wedding day, take any help that's offered to you, know your part of walking down the aisle, and commit your day to the covenant of marriage you're entering into together.

We photographed a wedding this last weekend and the groom said one of the most wonderful things: "Today is by far the best day of my life. Everything was worth it." Their wedding was gorgeous, the details came together, their faces and actions showed that what was important was how much they loved each other. Things didn't go as they expected at times, situations arose that were less than ideal, but at the end of the day, it was perfect because they knew what mattered most, they were starting their own family as husband and wife. And the groom said it all in his genuine sweet words of it being the most amazing day of his life. They are an example of what's really important.

So enjoy the process, take it in stride and keep your eyes focused on the prize...the details matter and are an extension of the celebration you are putting together, but they are not the finish line.